

Melanie Jane Brisbane-Schilling
Psychologist, Relationship Expert, TV Personality
Melanie Jane Brisbane-Schilling, widely known as Mel Schilling, the esteemed Australian psychologist, relationship expert, and beloved television personality, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, March 24, 2026, at the age of 54. Her death followed a courageous battle with colon cancer, which she had openly shared with the public. Schilling was best known for her insightful and empathetic role as a dating coach on the popular reality television series "Married at First Sight" in both Australia and the UK.
Born on October 13, 1971, in Melbourne, Australia, Mel Schilling embarked on a distinguished academic path, studying Psychology at the University of Melbourne and Deakin University. Her early career in the late 1990s saw her establish herself as a consulting psychologist, specializing in leadership development and behavioral assessment. She honed her expertise in human behavior and performance, laying the groundwork for her future impact on countless individuals.
In 2003, Schilling founded Extraversion Consulting, where she dedicated herself to confidence coaching, leadership training, and personal development. With over two decades of experience, she became renowned for her ability to combine scientific knowledge with humor and engagement, inspiring people to become their best selves and navigate complex relationship issues such as divorce, parenting, and career challenges.
Her transition to television began in 2016 when she joined "Married at First Sight Australia" as a relationship expert. Her calm demeanor, sensible advice, and profound understanding of human connection quickly made her a recognizable and respected figure on the show. She guided participants through the intricacies of forming lasting relationships, earning the affection and trust of viewers across Australia.
Schilling's influence expanded internationally when she joined the UK version of "Married at First Sight," further solidifying her reputation as a leading voice in modern dating and emotional intelligence. Beyond her television work, she was also an accomplished author, publishing her self-help book "The C Word (Confidence): Make Friends with Fear and Build Confidence from the Ground Up" in 2022. In her personal life, she found her soulmate in Gareth Brisbane, whom she married, and together they welcomed their daughter, Maddie, on November 3, 2015.
In December 2023, Mel Schilling was diagnosed with colon cancer, a battle she faced with remarkable courage and transparency. She openly shared updates on her health journey, including the devastating news in March 2026 that her cancer had spread and become terminal. Her final public messages urged fans to prioritize their health and get symptoms checked, embodying her lifelong commitment to helping others.
Tributes poured in from colleagues, friends, and fans worldwide, highlighting her warmth, optimism, and unwavering dedication. Channel 4 and Nine Network, broadcasters of "Married at First Sight," expressed deep sadness, remembering her as a wonderful colleague and friend who radiated joy and connected deeply with people. Her husband, Gareth, shared a poignant message, reflecting on their 15 wonderful years together and her enduring love for him and their daughter. Mel Schilling's legacy as a compassionate expert and a resilient individual will continue to inspire.
Melanie Jane Brisbane-Schilling is survived by her devoted husband, Gareth Brisbane, and their beloved daughter, Maddie. Her family, who were by her side in her final moments in London, expressed their gratitude for the global support and urged everyone to live life to the fullest, love their people well, and not to sweat the small stuff. She will be profoundly missed by all whose lives she touched.
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